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“Kloudiia

Hi there, well, I’m texting this message because I love a girl, but the problem is she has got a boyfriend, I’m 17, she is 16 and her boyfriend is 24, she met him through the internet, she never showed him to us and she never speaks about him, they’re together for 8 months, and since they’re together she gets mad easily and more than it’s often, and a lot of things in her changed…

Every friend of mine told me “you deserve better”, she met this guy through an online game and met him alone, only by herself (very dangerous). She has been losing part of her friends due to her attitude and she doesn’t hear our opinions and just does whatever she wants…

Do I deserve better? Should I still try something with her? Or should I pass and get someone who really deserves me?

PS: the guy is a total freak, the kind of guy who is a total nerd and never got no one and now he just met a girl through the net and and is her boyfriend since he can’t get no one of his age

PS2: the guy hasn’t got many friends

PS3: some of my friends hate him, because in msn he sad bad things to them

PS4: she just sees the guy twice a week, if she is lucky” - C

Dear C

Well it looks like the ball isn’t in your court, if there is a game after all. You are secretly (or not?) in love with this girl who is attached. Whether or not she is happy with this guy isn’t within your control, and until and unless she decides to call it quits, I guess you can only stand at the sidebench and be a spectator.

In the current state that she is in, she doesn’t look like she is open to anyone. So, what is it that you would like to do to break this barrier of entry? Have you done that already?

I can’t answer the question whether you deserve someone better, because we can’t really compare this girl with someone else and decide who scores more, right? But I’d put my hands up that you should find someone who is more compatible with you. Is this girl suitable for you? Do you know enough about her to conclude if she fits in with your lifestyle, values and perspectives on life and relationships?

Now, forget about her boyfriend and focus on yourself C. What type of relationship and girlfriend do you want? Be clear on this and you will know where you stand. Then, coming up with options and making a decision will be much more a breeze than now.

Lastly, you certainly deserve the best you can have. The best not necessarily means she is the best in all aspects, but the best in terms of compatbility in important areas that will make or break a relationship.

All the best to you!

Love, Kloudiia

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