Talk To Strangers
Your mum has constantly reminded you that whenever a stranger knocks on the door, don’t open it. Whenever a stranger approaches you, don’t speak to them. Don’t take sweets from strangers. Most importantly, don’t follow a stranger home.
Your mum is right - if you are still a three year old. Or anything less than the legal age required to buy a pack of cigarettes, or watch a R(A) movie.
Now, Kloudiia says you have to talk to strangers! In fact, you need to learn how to strike up a nice and easy conversation with a stranger so that you will leave a deep and lasting impression when you part ways. And the more strangers you talk to, the more at ease you will be when you ultimately meet the one. Yes, the one who will make your heart race and your body temperature to shoot up.
If you never learn how to talk to a stranger, how are you going to master the art of dating? Isn’t dating supposed to be meeting strangers and getting to know them before you decide if they are worth investing more time to explore if they fit into the long-term partner criteria?
Unless of course, you only allow yourself to talk to someone who is a friend of your friend as technically speaking, this person isn’t that totally foreign to you. In this case, you’re stuck with only one avenue of meeting potential partners - blind dates arranged by people you know. This already shrinks down your circle, because you can only cast your net this wide.
If there is any bit of the old adage of “Never talk to strangers” that still holds true and relevant in one’s single adulthood, it would be one additional piece of wisdom - “Never talk to suspicious strangers”.
If your intutition tells you that something could be wrong with this person you are facing, listen and trust your gut feeling. Run for your life! Remember to take along your bag and call your mom! (Alright, I’m joking about calling your mom, but I’m serious about running)
Otherwise, if this clean-shaven, tidily dressed and courteous gentleman walks up to you and chats you up, answer back! Or if this pleasant-looking lady is giving you a smile from across the table, smile back and maybe, walk over to say hi.
There is nothing wrong to talk to a stranger. In fact, there is everything wrong if you start behaving like some paraniod 3-year-old kid who fears that this person who could be remotely interested in you is actually coming after your money or body, or both, then it’s time to take out that pair of scissors. Cut off the apron strings from your mom now!
You are an adult, and please use your own better judgement to discern if this stranger is someone worth strking up a conversation with and getting to know him/her better for the sake of your future happiness.
When you are comfortable in knowing that it’s perfectly alright and fine to speak to a stranger, then you can pick up the skills to artfully know the right things to say at the right time to create the magic effect.
So, start to be watchful of your surroundings. You never know when Mr or Miss Gorgeous will be just around the corner, waiting for you to be spoken to.
[tags]striking a conversation, talking to strangers, meeting new people, dating, singles, making first appraoch, how to talk to stranger[tags]
