Are We A Cute Couple Or Petty Friends?
“Kloudiia
What if you don’t really like a person, but people say that you and the person make a cute couple? There’s this guy in my class. We argue almost everyday about random things. There are some days where I can’t stand him. Other days, he’s just fine when he shuts up. Geez, it’s like we’re an old couple how we act. I don’t know what this is: lust or just friends. Please help!” - AG
Dear AG
When someone can describe their relationship with another person as if they are an “old couple”, to me that sounds like perfect chemistry and nothing short of that! Yet the first thing you say is you don’t like him in your email. Hmm, you are confused indeed. Irony! Irony!
What makes you say you don’t like him, and if you are sure of this, then why are you confused over the status of your friendship?
Ok, to give you benefit of the doubt, I shall assume you don’t dislike him to the extent to tick him out of your potential boyfriend list. So let’s talk something something more exciting - lust, love or?
Whether or not is it lust depends on how you see this guy. Are you wildly attracted to him that you can’t wait to tear off his clothes and want to kiss him to death? If you’re not, then you can be at peace. Lust is not in the picture.
While lust can be so easily identified, we can’t say the same about this though - infatuation. Do you like him as a normal friend or is there something that is already in the brew and yet you are still not in the know?
What are the random things that you argue about? Are they of any significance to you knowing him better as a person? Do these arguments tell you something about his values?
Equally important is how do you quarrel? You may not pay attention to this since I believe those are on the spur moments, but maybe you can take note of this when the next spat occurs. Why is this important? Because it’s another way of qualifying if he is a gentleman or a cad.
How do you care for and about each other? From here you can also probably tell if its a platonic friendship or if its really going somewhere.
Since you guys are still schooling, you can just take this slow and probably let nature run its course. At times, when you want to hurry, you may spoil that nice, tingling, bitter-sweet feeling of wandering in the grey area and about to step out into the real romance zone.
Don’t fret on this AG. Focus on your studies, and the rest will take care of itself. So long as you don’t kill each other after each argument, I guess both of you will be fine. 
Lastly, if you’re so bothered by what people say, have you asked them why they label the two of you as a “cute couple”? Maybe there really is something that you are blind to… Isn’t it time to open your eyes now girl?
Love, Kloudiia
