Showing Your Interest For Her
Now, you see this girl and your heart starts beating madly. You feel as if the whole world has stopped spinning for you, and now it’s your moment to let her know your feelings. It’s as if you can hear the music playing in the background, and your body feels light as a feather. You are now floating on cloud nine.
All of a sudden, the music stops. The silence is deadening, and the drastic change brings you back to reality in a sharp way.
You realise one missing piece from the whole jigsaw – you don’t know how to show your interest for her!
I remember this guy friend who is very chatty and loves flirting around with girls, until one time when I saw him humming and hawing in the presence of a girl. I was shocked and bewildered. Of course, I didn’t hide my shock from him. My look said it all.
I remember asking him: “Why are you so tongue-tied with that girl? Don’t tell me you – like – her?” “How did you know? You mean it’s very obvious?” he asked. “Well, yeah, you are not yourself anymore! So it’s either you like her or she likes you and you don’t! Ha ha… oh, I didn’t know you would have this day too! Ha ha ha …”
I didn’t mean to be so mean, really, but I couldn’t leave him without taking a jab at him. He growled at me, and asked: “So, do you have any tips for me? How do you find her?”
Okay, we were both in junior college then, and I knew him from secondary school days. He has a glib tongue; everyone knows and can attest to this “virtue”. However, in the presence of his “goddess” as he called her, he went jelly.
I gave him some tips, and I hope he find it useful. Fast forward to twenty years later (man, time flies!), maybe these tips will still come in handy for guys who still have their hair-standing, heart-stopping moments when coming face to face with their goddess, princess or simply, their girl of their dreams.
It that’s you, then read on …
5 Tips To Show Your Interest For Her (without saying “I like you” to her)
1. Speak with your eyes. Look into her eyes for a full minute, if you can. Otherwise, 30 seconds is good enough too. No blinking, just pure gazing into her eyes. But please, do not stare at her as if you’re about to eat her up. Gaze at her as if you’re saying “You’re so beautiful” with your eyes.
2. Speak with your hands. Guide her along when you’re walking. Offer to help her with any heavy stuff she’s carrying. Block any “danger materials” that are flying towards her. Girls are very drawn to strong arms, so show off your strength!
3. Speak with your heart. Do you know how to give a good compliment? There are 3 easy steps to follow: 1 – Notice the one thing you like to compliment, e.g. her beautiful eyes. 2 – Tell her how her eyes make her light up and stand out among the crowd. 3 – Ask her a question. In this case, ask her if anyone has told her how lovely her eyes are? In order for these 3 steps to work, there is a critical pre-requisite: You are really sincere about it. That’s what I mean by “speaking with your heart”. A false compliment will only sound as it – fake and manipulative. Girls won’t fall for it.
4. Speak with your action. Action speaks louder than words! Show your interest by showing interest in all she says, what she does and what she likes. Then manifest it through little action like helping her to order her favourite drink and reminding the waiter the way she likes it: less sugar and no ice, for example.
5. Speak through your friends. It’s time to leverage on your network of friends. Express your admiration for this girl to friends who know her friends too. It’s just a matter of time that she gets wind of this guy’s crush on her. When you next brush shoulder with her, remember to smile and do Tip #1 immediately!
See, you don’t have to say “I like you” if that makes you go weak in your knees and threaten to put you in a temporary shock. Of course, it is undeniable that that would be the fastest way to show your interest to the girl. But, you may like to take comfort to know that, while that is the fastest, not all girls take to that! As the saying goes, different strokes for different folks!
