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Dear S

I’m going to start with a cliche (ouch!) – okay, here goes. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. There, I’ve got it out of my stomach!

Thanks for your compliments of my book, that’s nice, and I’m glad you find it useful for you and your to-be wedded friends!

What I meant in Secret #6 was a reminder that inner beauty is the only form of beauty that not only passes through the test of time, but actually gets better when one sets his/her heart on cultivating it.

That said, physical attractiveness should not be neglected too. That forms one of the basis for attraction, and that’s why people should make it a point to still look as good as they can be after they are married. So, you’re not superficial to want your partner to be attractive, but you will be if that’s the only criteria you have.

What are the other traits and qualities in women that you find positive and attractive to you? Are you naturally drawn to girls who are chatty, or quiet? Aggressive, or shy? Outgoing or homely? What values do you hold dear and important in life and relationships? Do you know the type of person that will suit you, besides the looks?

I’ve mentioned many times before that attraction is very subjective and is a matter of perception. And good news is, it’s pretty easy to boost up the looks department by changing either the hairstyle, colour, or even a piece of attire, and some make-up. Viola! The girl begins to shine! There’s no ugly women, only lazy ones, I always tell people.

I’m glad that you’re admitting how important physical looks is to you. Sometimes it’s more important for people, like yourself, sometimes it’s less important for others. Both are just fine. It’s about acknowledging this is a crucial criteria to you and knowing the kind of partner to look for. Just don’t be blown away solely by how she looks, and forget to find out the true her underneath that radiant cover.

One last thing I’d like to say is, beauty has been much over-rated and stereotyped by the media. So I hope that you’re not basing beauty on what you see on TV and magazine covers. If you are, well I’m wishing you good luck!

All the best to you S. I’m sure you’ll find someone who fits both your bill of looks and inner beauty!

Love, Kloudiia